Be Aware of Your Emotions

“Attitudes are contagious, is yours worth catching?” This is a pretty cheesy quotation that I often see on classroom posters. It is directed towards students, but I think the message needs to be heeded by educators as well.

Disney’s Inside Out is a wonderful movie with a variety of important life lessons (maybe future blogs). One of the main characters, Sadness, is a great representation of the attitude and demeanor I sometimes see in educators. By the end of the movie we discover the important role that sadness plays in adolescent emotional development. However, for the purpose of this blog, she will be used as the example of how not to look, act, behave, and speak.

In this scene, Joy and Sadness are trying to make it back to Headquarters to help Riley (the girl who they serve as emotions for). “I am positive you will get lost in there.” This is an example of how Sadness always looks at the worst case scenario.

Also important to note is that Sadness, having read the manual, knows how to get back to headquarters. But Joy has to literally drag her around to get the journey started. Besides not helping herself, Sadness’ negative attitude is now impacting those around her.

Implications for Education

I have a theory. A school receives an anonymous donation. They are able to give each teacher in the building $1000. However, it turns out that a portion of the donation was supposed to fund a new projector for the conference room. The teachers are asked to give back $20 to purchase the projector. A small fraction of the teachers will complain.

My point is that no matter what the circumstance there will always be some who choose to be unhappy.

My hope is that this post helps those with Sadness tendencies reflect on the impact their attitude has on a school.

As a principal, I frequently make building rounds. I know that there are some hallways and classrooms where the teachers will be in the hallway greeting students, sharing positive stories with colleagues, and keeping an eye on things. I love traversing these areas, because the optimism is infectious.

Then there are the areas of the building where I dread going. In these spots the teachers will inevitably stop me. They won’t stop me to talk about a new idea for a lesson, to share about the progress a student is making, or to ask me about my family. Either the copier ran out of toner, they had to cover a class where the substitute did not show up, or an entire class bombed a quiz.

The wind has been completely taken out of my sails.

I am not saying that these are not concerns, but instead of rolling with it and being solution minded, they let obstacles ruin their day, and worse, ruin everyone else’s day.

I can’t imagine that the same teacher leaves the hallway and starts class with the positivity and enthusiasm necessary to engage students. I know for a fact that there are students in that class dealing with a lot more than a lack of toner. How are those students supposed to act when what is being modeled to them is unhappiness, malaise, gloom, and despair?

Student behavior is a reflection of teacher behavior. You ever see a science teacher who is completely in love with his curriculum? They get so animated by the content that they make it impossible for their students not to be excited about the next lab.

Not only does negatively impact the students, but other teachers as well. It could go one of two ways. Teachers around the Sadness teacher will choose to retreat to their room. This creates a school culture of isolation. The other thing that could happen is that fellow educators get “infected” by the teacher. They start to think maybe I should complain more about my circumstances. That is why in a school that utilizes a team model, you may see teams take on a common characteristic (good or bad).

The only way to fix it is to be aware of it. Education is challenging. There are things that will come up or you will be asked to do that are difficult, will cost you time, and weigh heavy on your emotions. But, how you choose to handle those situations will make the difference. Deciding to sulk, complain, and mope will only compound the issue. Meeting the challenge head on will not only make you feel better, it will inspire and motivate the students and teachers around you.

Be careful because the path of Sadness can sometimes lead you down the path of becoming the Eeyore Teacher.

3 Common Teacher/Student Relationship Misconceptions

Education is responsible for raising the next generation of productive citizens. This is no tiny task. And certainly not one to take lightly. But perhaps the business of education has become too formal. Maybe we, as educators, need to examine the dynamics of the teacher student relationship.

*This video contains graphic language*

This scene is the culmination of the feud between Philip Seymour Hoffman (Mitch) and Robin Williams (Patch). The two medical students operate (nailed that pun) on opposite ends of the spectrum. Mitch sees the relationship between doctor and patient as very sterile. The doctor dictates the “treatment” to the patient. Patch believes that developing relationships with his patients is essential to providing great care. Laughter can indeed be the best medicine.

“…That you think that you have to be a prick to get things done and that you actually think that that’s a new idea.” This is Patch’s comment to Mitch as Patch leaves the room. Then the camera pauses on Mitch for a second as he grapples with this statement.

Implications for Education

Let us explore three Mitchian comments that you hear in education and how Patch might respond to them.

“Don’t smile until Christmas.”

Teachers need to be seen as the person in charge. They have to be firm, set expectations early, and demonstrate that they are in control. Teachers are afraid that if they are nice (smile) they increase the chances of students not respecting them as authority figures.

Patch would argue that the exact opposite is true. Students are more likely to respect rules and authority from those whom they believe care about them.

There is still a prevailing notion that students have to fear teachers in order to respect them. Historically, educators believed that by simply holding the title of “teacher” commanded student compliance.  Well it may be true that students and young people in general should be respectful of teachers and adults, that is not always true.  The best way to earn respect is by showing respect.

When teachers fail to smile or show kindness they miss opportunities to earn students’ respect.  Simply put, students respond best to rules and directions when shared respect exists.  In fact, I have spoken with several students who told me that they will deliberately go out of their way to break rules and disobey directions, because their teacher treated them like they were less than.

“I’m not here to make friends with my students.”

Any relationship that is outside of the stereotypical teacher student one is inappropriate and ineffective. Students come to school to learn. Teachers work at schools to teach.

Patch would argue that learning takes places when students develop positive relationships with their teachers.

If you think back to the teachers that had the greatest impact on you, they worked hard to create meaningful relationships with you. You felt comfortable going to them for help, school related or not. When I think of these teachers, the word “friend” never comes to mind. Invested, caring, empathetic, compassionate, yes. Friend, no.

Failing to form relationships with students because it will lead to friendship is a cop out. Forming relationships takes time. But, investing that time early in the year will yield positive dividends over the long-term.

“If you don’t punish the student, the rest of the class is going learn that it is acceptable to misbehave.”

The classic domino effect. One student gets away with something and now every student is going to mimic that poor behavior.

Patch would contend that every student is different. Every situation is different. To provide generalized consequences would not take into consideration all the factors surrounding a student or an incident.

Educators know that it is 5% of the students that take up 95% of your time. Therefore, the domino effect is proven inaccurate. Other students do not start misbehaving if they perceive a student to have “gotten away” with something. In fact, other students are extremely perceptive and empathetic. They acknowledge how hard educators are working to support struggling students.

The focus should not be placed on worrying about the other 95% of students. The focus should be on the student with the behavior concern. That is why it is extremely important to take into consideration that individual student when applying consequences.

At the end of the day, the goal is to reduce or eliminate the negative behavior. There are no universal strategies that accomplish that for every student. But, when you focus on the individual student, and not how the rest of the class will respond, your consequences/supports are more meaningful.

Patch says it best, ” You treat a disease, you win, you lose. You treat a person, I guarantee you, you’ll win, no matter what the outcome.”

It Just Doesn’t Matter

There is enough to deal with inside the classroom. Don’t get distracted by all the noise outside your four walls.

Back to back blogs with soliloquies from the king, Bill Murray.

Camp North Star is down big to rival, Camp Mohawk. All seems lost. Until Bill Murray (Tripper) gives a rousing speech which turns the tides leading to the ultimate underdog victory.

How does Tripper do it? Does he have a new gameplan? Did he discover a loophole in the competition? Is he highlighting the strengths and talents of his campers? Does he share Camp Mohawk’s greatest weakness?

None of the above.

Tripper’s master plan is, “It just doesn’t matter.”

Tripper highlights all of Camp Mohawk’s advantages (great athletes, best equipment money can buy, personal masseuses, training methods from the Soviet Union, etc.). He puts into words what everyone is thinking. All of Camp North Star is consumed with how wonderful Camp Mohawk is. They are focusing on what they can’t control, not what they can.

His solution is simple, stop worrying about Camp Mohawk. Not only does it not benefit Camp North Star in the competition, but it is actually making them perform worse.

I don’t know if Tripper believes that Camp North Star can win. I do know that he believes that they will have a lot more fun, play better, and have a better shot at winning if they stop focusing on Camp Mohawk.

Connection to Education

Social media is great! Unless you are looking for positive stories about teaching in America. Twitter and Facebook are littered with information about the mistreatment of teachers. Whether it is teacher pay, insurance, or general respect, educators seem to be on the short end most of the time.

This post aims to solve none of those problems. Rather, my advice, or Tripper’s advice, is, “It just doesn’t matter.”

As a teacher there are a million things that are out of your control. What you can control is what happens in your classroom when it is just you and your students.

Choose to spend the time focused on meeting the needs of your students. Be grateful that you have the opportunity to make a difference in someone else’s life.

You may not have many resources, but you have the most important resource, time. With time and a desire to always do what is best for your students, you can make all the difference.

Those who carry the baggage of all the things wrong in education dump that on their students. If you come into your classroom upset about what you don’t have or jealous about what somebody else has it is going to come out in your teaching. Teaching is too personal for it not to.

Control what you can control. Focus on what matters. “It just doesn’t matter” what is happening outside of your classroom, because magic is happening inside it.

Put a Little Love in Your Heart

What is the best way to leave school with a smile on your face?

There are certain holiday movies I look forward to watching every year. Scrooged is one of those films. It is great from start to finish. However, the last ten minutes are incredible. If I am flipping through the channels and this scene is on, I have to sit and watch. And even though I have not invested in the prior 2 hours, I always find myself getting choked up.

Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol has been retold dozens of times. Scrooged might be my favorite retelling. We follow Bill Murray (Frank Cross) as he meets with three ghosts on Christmas Eve. By the end of the night he has transformed from a money obsessed selfish television executive to a true believer in the Christmas spirit and power of giving back.

“If you give…then the miracle can happen to you.” What does Frank mean by give? What does he mean by miracle?

At the beginning of the film Frank gives his brother bath towels for Christmas. Why? Because he does not know his brother. He does not know anyone, because his actions have been guided by power and greed. Throughout the movie, he starts listening and learning about the people around him. He begins to reflect on the consequences of his actions, or inactions, and understand what it is people truly need.

In order to “give” you have to connect with those around you. You have to understand what they really need.

The miracle Frank refers to in this scene is purpose. He finally understands the power of doing for others. Working in his own self-interest has left him empty. Only through the power of giving back does Frank feel fulfilled. His miracle is the happiness that overwhelms when he starts living a life to help others.

Connection to Education

Everyone knows the phrase “slippery slope.” Most of the connotations are negative. Start off down the wrong path and a whole host of other problems are sure to follow. But, what if we applied this principle to making positive choices?

Image result for peak of a mountain cartoon

In the image above we see two sides of the mountain (two slippery slopes). One side represents making a poor choice and dealing with all the consequences of that choice. The other side represents positive actions and the benefits that come from going in that direction.

Where do we start to go down the positive path?

Frank started with giving and that is where educators should start. In order for Frank to give he had to understand the people around him. In order for educators to give, they have to know their students. Without creating meaningful relationships, the best we can hope to give our students are bath towels.

When you get to know your students, you know what they need:

  • Time
  • Patience
  • Understanding
  • Love
  • Attention
  • Affirmations
  • A Second Chance

Here is where the miracle happens. When you know what your students need and you give it to them, amazing things happen (miracles happen). Students look forward to coming to your class. They work for you. They give you everything they have.

Giving opens up the potential of your students and provides them with the opportunity to fall in love with school. But Frank’s giving does not only help realize the miracle for the recipients of his kindness, he benefits as well. The same is true for educators.

When you form meaningful relationships with students and provide them with what they need, you will feel the overwhelming joy that few other professions provide. You will leave school with a big smile across your face.

Keep Your Focus

Every year education gets more complex. There is more to do, more to worry about, and more to understand. In a profession that is often overwhelming, it is extremely important to maintain your focus.

The aging pitching ace, Kevin Costner (Billy Chapel), finds himself in New York one last time facing the Yankees. As Chapel gets ready to face the first batter, he scans the stadium focusing on the insults being hurled his way from the home fans.

In order to hone in at the job at hand we hear Chapel say, “Clear the mechanism.” After that, the surrounding noise is drowned out by Chapel’s primary focus, the opposing batter.

Spoiler alert: Chapel goes on to pitch a perfect game. He is only able to accomplish the rare task because he can separate the distractions from the job.

It’s that simple. Teachers need only to say, “Clear the mechanism” as they walk into class every student will follow directions, participate, support each other, and master the content. Okay, maybe it is not quite that easy.

The best way for educators to maintain the proper focus is by asking themselves one question, “Is this what is best for my students?”

Two of the most common examples of distractions that can detract from doing what is best for students are time wasting and emotional energy drains.

Time Wasting

The tasks of an educator are many and the school day is only so long. Teachers and principals should prioritize their daily schedule based on what will yield the largest benefits to students.

It may be helpful to track your activities, outside of direct instruction, for a week and then reflect on the impact each activity has on student learning.

Example (One Day)

7:30 to 8:00 – Making Copies – Low Impact on Student Learning

11:30 to 11:50 – Eating Lunch – Low Impact on Student Learning

11:50 to 12:10 – Comparing Common Assessment Data with PLT – High Impact on Student Learning

12:10 to 12:30 – Revising Future Lesson Plans Based on Data Review – High Impact on Student Learning

12:30 to 1:00 – Searching the Internet for Project Ideas – Medium Impact on Student Learning

3:30 to 4:30 – Providing Meaningful Feedback on Student Assignment – High Impact on Student Learning

This a very simplified outline of a teacher’s use of time before school, during planning, and after school. I recognize that there are certain tasks that have to be done, even though they have a low impact on student learning. But, these tasks should be minimized, or an alternative or more efficient means to accomplish the activities should be considered.

If you find that you are spending an exorbitant amount of time making copies, have you considered the use of technology in your classroom? Could students use notebooks instead of receiving a copy of everything? Can you get by with only a classroom set?

Ask a colleague whom you consider to be a master teacher to log their time as well. After a week compare the data. It may be surprising to see how they prioritize their time.

When you are cognizant of your time and what you spend it on, you will inevitably become more efficient.

Emotional Energy Drains

Teaching is emotionally draining. If you want to hang out with an educator on the weekend, make it a Saturday, because most teachers are sleeping by 8 o’clock on Friday night.

Passion, enthusiasm, and energy are essential elements to strong teaching. To keep those at peak levels, we must avoid emotional drains.

Examples of Energy Drains

  • Complaining Colleagues – Conversations with co-workers around all the problems in education
  • Negative Student Talk – Discussing and hearing about all the “problem” students you and others have to deal with it
  • Emotionally Charged Emails – Reading and responding to negative emails from parents
  • Power Struggles with Students – Constantly seeking the upper-hand when working with challenging students.
  • Failed Lesson Obsessing – Wallowing in the aftermath of a failed activity

It is difficult to go through a school day and not encounter one, if not more, of these energy suckers. The key is to quickly recognize it for what it is, and move on to a high student impact activities.

When you spend too much time in an energy drain your ability to maintain the positive energy, enthusiasm, and passion in the classroom will become almost impossible.

While it may not be as simple as “Clearing the mechanism,” focusing your time and energy on doing what’s best for students will ultimately lead to greater job satisfaction and better student results.

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